Heather

Future Mom 2

More thoughts on the last post:

I will never, ever regret choosing to be a stay-at-home mom. I know that. Ultimately, my children will only be around for a short while, and I want to be there for them while I can be, before they move on.

I have many goals in life–but none of them conflict with being a stay-at-home mom. I’ve lived my whole life knowing I wanted to be a mom first.

On economic feasibility: Would it be difficult? Yes. But single parents manage to raise their children on one income. There could be some sacrifices (a smaller house, not being able to spend as much money on all the stuff we want in life), but it is completely possible to raise a family comfortably off of one income. My parents managed to do it, and I know many other people who did the same.

If I have to go to work, I will have education behind me, and experience behind me, that will enable me to earn income if necessary. That is one of the reasons I’ve been going to college for the last three years–so that if I can’t live my ideal, it will be okay.

Growing up with a stay-at-home mom, I needed the emotional support of my mother being for me a lot more than I needed any income she could bring in. Money is a tool for things greater; but nothing can replace time lost or untended relationships. I can give a lot more to my children by staying home than I ever could if I worked.

After the children are gone: It’s not like once my kids are gone I’ll look around and go, “Now what?” There are so many good things to do–like missions for my church, writing, reading, catching up on all my hobbies, etc. And once the kids are gone, I can go back and get further degrees in school, I can go and get a job if I want to.

But all those things will wait for me, and my future children will only be children once. And I want them to be first in my life, because being a mother will be the most important role I will ever have in this life. I want to do it right.

I don’t really think I am living my own life. I don’t want to live my own life–I want to give my life to others. It’s a choice I’m making, but I do it knowing I will be happier for it.

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4 thoughts on “Future Mom 2

  1. I agree with you, on both posts.

    And, especially after taking a Family Finances class, I’m begining to realize that, for the most part, the extra income on the second paycheck is for all the extra stuff. We spend so much money on unnecessary things, and we will never have enough money to buy it all.

    I would much rather spend my best years raising children, rather than having stuff. When my children leave the house, it will be full of pictures and memories and love. Not just stuff.

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  2. “I don’t really think I am living my own life. I don’t want to live my own life–I want to give my life to others.”

    I think this is so wonderful and important. 🙂

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  3. Hello,
    While you make many excellent points, I’d just like to add a gentle reminder…certainly it is a wonderful thing to give your life to your family, and in the big picture that you’ve painted, it does sound amazing. And it IS. Realize, though, that there will be days when you are weary to your core; days and weeks and months and years where you feel stiffled and trapped, because you haven’t had even a moment to think your own thoughts. There will be times when you are exhauted — physically, mentally, and spiritually — from providing support of all kinds to so many (your husband, your children, etc). While I certainly don’t regret being a stay at home mom, I wish someone would have told me that not every moment is as beautiful as I’d hoped. Don’t be discouraged by the times when life is hard, and be sure to make time for you — you need those quiet moments for God to refresh your soul and prepare you for your work as a mother.

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