You’ve heard versions of this: You have to take care of yourself first. You should do something for you. You need to pursue your dreams. You need to go on adventures and do something extraordinary. The theme is memorialized in movies and said to be inspirational.
But often, it devalues sacrifice and replaces it with entitlement.
It is good to lose yourself in the service of others.
King Benjamin said, “When ye are in the service of your fellow beings ye are only in the service of your God. ” -Mosiah 2:17
And Jesus said, “If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. ” -Matthew 16:24-25
Sometimes that means you give up dreams. You stop doing what you’re good at. You keep going out your comfort zone even when it feels awkward or it doesn’t really work. Maybe you end up a bit frazzled and stretched. Maybe you feel a bit lost.
But that’s okay. Sacrifice is not a bad thing! Sacrifice is sort of the point. You can’t have it all. Sometimes you have to make choices about what is most important. Sometimes you place others above yourself.
Instead of having a list of stuff I want to accomplish in my life, I hope that instead, I’ll be able to help other people.
I’ve seen lists of life goals and dreams that are steeped in accomplishment and success. I don’t want my goals to be like that; I’m going to reanalyze them and try to be more open to service and love. Instead of becoming great, I want to be humble. Instead of helping myself, I want to help others.